Gluten-free Dating: tough to find, but full of benefits

OK ok ok ok I know this blog isn’t a spot for my personal problems. But you know how the other day I was saying I got dumped by a caveman?

That was lame. It was no fun. I would have preferred it did not happen, but it did, and that’s how the gluten-free cookie crumbles. I guess it’s not a very big gluten-free cookie – we weren’t dating for very long, really.

The reason I’m blathering on about this is that this was my first experience dating someone else who was gluten-free. And it was awesome. I didn’t realize how much of a difference it would make, but it was really nice.

Maybe you’ve had a similar experience? No need to educate and explain, no need to turn down offers for a bite of this or that, no need to feel like a pain in the butt when I ask the waiter the celiac run-down questions.

Perhaps more importantly, no worries about whether or not he might have eaten a sandwich before seeing me, how much beer is too much beer, and whether or not I’d pick up some cross-contamination from kissing him (ew, cooties, gross!).

He understood why getting boxes of cereal to sample was exciting, little things like that. An embarrassing amount of my life revolves around food, and the sharing of it, and easy sharing made for a happy me.

Clearly there are many wonderful gluten-eating individuals out there, and the ones that I’ve dated in the past have been accommodating and understanding and never once tried to sneak some flour onto my plate to see if I was just joking about the whole thing. But if I had my druthers, well, I wouldn’t mind meeting someone else who was GF.

Which all leads me to ask:

What’s dating been like for you? I’m less interested (at this juncture) in serious relationships – where you can reasonably expect someone to deal with your issues – than I am with the process of getting to know someone.

On your second date, for example, let’s imagine the waiter brings out your food with a slice of bread on top. What to do? How best to not-get-sick while also maintaining your grace and charm?

More importantly: do you know any eligible gluten-free gentlemen in Pittsburgh? I could use a rebound. Ideally mid-to-late twenties, smart and cute (I admit it, I’m shallow). We can flip through the gluten-free restaurant guide and find a nice spot for a gluten-free date.


9 thoughts on “Gluten-free Dating: tough to find, but full of benefits”

  1. I gave up. No dating for me. In our society, food is part of socializing. It is way to difficult to get something to eat together. Going to a party or festival is out. Period.

  2. I’m only seventeen, but dating or even just going out with friends can be hard. I always speak up for myself to help avoid problems. If my friends and I are going out and the restauran hasn’t been picked yet then I suggest somewhere I know I can eat. If something is wrong I speak up, but politely. All my friends have been give the rundown on celiacs and I I go out with someone new they are given it too. When I have to explain I try to be short and sweet and to the point. I tell them what makes me sick, why and how to deal with it, then what I can eat. I find the best thing is to just be positive because if you let it celiacs will ruin your social life.

  3. A friend tried to set me up with a guy who was also GF, but he stood me up. Ha ha. That’s been my only experience so far. Although there was a cute guy at a restaurant last week who completely understood my requests to have my salad mixed in a clean bowl because his sister has Celiacs.

  4. Boy, you hit on something here…dating, kissing GF style. And what about if date wants to cook for you, or take you to friends house for dinner? Akward. And I don’t like to wash everything and inspect it when I am guest, seems rude, but then again if they make gf waffles on same waffle iron used with regular waffles, can’t eat. yipes I have had this happen often, or they omit to mention the soy sauce in meal, etc. How many dates before they get it or take off to never, never land?

  5. my boyfriend found out he has celiac in 2001, I found out in 2008 shortly before I met him…. After two months of eating nothing but sushi and fritos, he made me gluten free crab cakes and clearly knew the way to my heart!

    but having both of us be celiac is extraordinarily important I think makes a huge difference. We know what the other one feels like when “glutened” something that I believe is impossible to explain to anyone who isn’t celiac. we also get excited together about new foods we find we can have, and new restaurants with GF menues, it really has been I believe a part of our relationship that really contributes to us being as happy as we are. My boyfriends brother has it as well, and his wife eats gluten free because its jsut easier for them and has learned to bake and cook gluten free for him very well and you can tell it makes a difference for them as well, contrastingly.. his cousin who has a gluten intolerance but not celiac seems to “cheat” much more because her fiance does not stick to a gluten free diet. Just my two cents :) it’s made a huge difference in my life having the most important person in my life be gluten free…

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